Years ago I officiated a funeral for a young woman who died of a fatal overdose...

 
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Years ago I officiated a funeral for a young woman who died of a fatal overdose. Her daughter, a teenager at the time had told me in a meeting 'I want my mom's funeral to be something to remember.'
The family handed flower seeds to all who attended that service, seeds carefully wrapped in paper origami flowers they had made. I'll never forget their attention to that detail. Them sitting together. Folding that paper. Tucking in perennial seeds.
After the service on a cold, windy day in early spring I planted those seeds.
Each year they return in my garden. Stronger and healthier and more beautiful than the previous season.
I am comforted by her company though I never knew her. To the daughter of this woman: your mom's funeral was unforgettable to me.

'I don't wear collared shirts.' he states though I do notice he is wearing one...

 
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Dear Anonymous,
'I don't wear collared shirts.' he states though I do notice he is wearing one. He is emphatic. His speech punctuated with meaning.
'Last time I wore one of those was at my partners' funeral. We were together three and a half years. I changed his diapers at the end. No mention of me in the obituary. No mention of me at the funeral. His sister, she took everything...'
and then he is choked up. No words. A long painful moment, a perplexingly long inhalation that has stopped and I just want to breathe for him.

'I'll take the shirt.'

It is a Ralph Lauren. I tell him Ralph would be lookin' good on him. We smile.
He suddenly animates himself,eyes to the leaden sky. 'Faaaaaaahhhhhhccccckkkkkkkkkkk. And now the rain!'
He leaves. What is it we leave. What is it we carry forward like him, in a wobbly shopping cart lifted from across the bridge in another town. Filled with the crumpled and broken. With the redeemable. With our baggage placed alternately with tenderness and violence.

You are not a foxglove but as the frail looking fox attempts to trot down the street this morning...

 
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You are not a foxglove but as the frail looking fox attempts to trot down the street this morning, in the pedestrian lane looking wounded and mangey I will think of you nonetheless. The fox. Looking at me without concern. Much bigger issues at hand. And then I look at its' hands, its' paws, and I think of you again, though you are not a foxglove.